Memories of Gesa Lamers

another memorial....

no_author@no_author.com — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 09:15:56 EST

There was another memorial for Gesa. It was thru her work. The staff put a beautiful memorial together for Gesa. I was grateful that Tulug invited me to go. I have been helping to take care of Aylin since she got home and I really wanted to go to Gesa's funeral but could not afford to, so this was much needed closure.
They read a beautiful indian poem. They played beautiful music. The crowd was very big. They handed out notes and purple balloons for us all to release.
  Everyone who wanted to talk about Gesa could, many took turns sharing things with everyone. I did as well.
  We all released the balloons. It was a beautiful site. You could just imagine them going to Gesa.
   They served cake and punch and that allowed people to come and talk to Tulug and Aylin. Tulug held up very well. Aylin loved the attention and so many people offered their support to Tulug. So many people are willing to help them. I felt overwhelmed with emotion, the many ... many people Gesa touched. So many loved her. So many are willing to help Tulug. Its really wonderful to see that.
  I just wanted to share the beautiful day they had for Gesa. Everyday, I miss her. As Tulug's Mom and I help to put things away for Aylin, and help get things in an order for Tulug to be able to go on, I shed a tear and I miss Gesa.

Re: Gesa will be Forever missed....

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 09:39:34 EST

Thank you so much for your kind words. My thoughts and prayers are with all those who are hurting. May you find the peace and comfort you need to get thru this as well. I hope this helps... this is something that helped me when my own father died. I loved this saying. I hope it brings you comfort and you can imagine Gesa saying it to you.
"And if I go, while you're still here.... Know that I live on, vibrating to a different measure--behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me, so you must have faith. I wait for the time when we can soar together again, both aware of each other, until then; live your life to its fullest ... and when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart........ I will be there."

WHY?

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 09:36:41 EST

I know when I heard of Gesa's death, the question came to my mind, WHY? I cried and asked God over and over, why a woman so young, why? Why with a child so young and a wonderful loving husband who adored her?
  I want to share my answer to the WHY and I do it with hopes that others will feel comforted.
  As I was crying why, the answer came to me like a calm... because this life is one of learning and free agency. God gave each of us, HIS CHILDREN, free agency to live our lives the way we choose to and with that comes consequences. One person made a huge a mistake. He was driving and his bad driving killed someone very dear to many. I believe God was mericiful. He took Gesa quick. She did not suffer a long death, one like cancer with much pain... he just took her. I feel if Gesa had lived, she would of been a vegetable. Everyone who knew and loved Gesa knows, she would of hated that. In my opinion that would of been too hard on Tulug and Aylin.
   Gesa and I did talk about death several times. She was telling me of a dear friend who was going thru a very simular situation, the wife died instantly and a child was hurt, much like Aylin was. Gesa told me, "IF I HAVE TO GO, I WANT TO GO LIKE THAT. FAST! OR GO TO SLEEP AT NIGHT AND NOT WAKE UP." Gesa actually died like we had talked. She went quick.
  Death is hard for the ones left behind. We all grieve and miss her. It will take time to heal. But it is my prayer that soon, especially for Tulug and Aylin and her family, that we all can look back on memories and smile. Gesa would want that. She would want us to have a good laugh in her behalf. She also would want us to know, she is in a good place. A place of comfort and peace. A place of Joy. She is with her Father and her favorite dog Faust. She is watching over her loved ones now.
   This helped me when I lost my father. I felt this is what he would say to me if he could.... I hope it comforts many. I feel Gesa would say it to all of us as well.
   "And if I go, while you're still here.... Know that I live on, vibrating to a different measure--behind a thin veil you cannot see through. You will not see me, so you must have faith. I wait for the time when we can soar together again, both aware of each other, until then; live your life to its fullest ... and when you need me, just whisper my name in your heart........ I will be there."

I continue to pray for peace and comfort to all those who loved and lost Gesa.

Re: The Dash Movie

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 09:19:40 EST

That was a beautiful movie. Thank you so much for sharing it. I know everyone who knew Gesa would agree, her DASH was well spent and full of great things to share.

Re: Arrangements

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 03:05:38 EST

Thank you for making this web page for Gesa. At the hospital here in Caldwell, many of the staff go on with their work. Often times, few gather and talk amongst themselves and share memories of Gesa. We hug each other and cry on each others shoulders. We feel a great emptiness without her. I have learned so much from her and its made me a better person for it. She said to me a few years ago that she wanted to make a difference in peoples lives. She has made a tremendous difference in so many lives and we will never forget her. My one regret is that I never told her how very much her friendship meant to me and how I cared for her. I hope she knows now. Thank you

EDMAE BRYSON

Re: Gesa will be Forever missed....

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 02:50:08 EST

I read your "Memories of Gesa". She was exactly as you described. She was the most down to earth person I ever knew. She was truely passionate about her job and she loved her family more than life itself. When she spoke of Tulug, her eyes lit up. You just knew that they had a special relationship. He was her world and Aylin completed her world. I so enjoyed reading your memories of Gesa. It is as I knew her as well. Its been very hard for me at work. I miss her so much. I still think that she's going to come through those doors from the medical center. I still can't believe she's gone. I know that time will heal all wounds and all of us will carry her memories with us and go on with our work. She touched so many lives and it was such a blessing to us who were lucky to have known her. My one regret is that I never told her how much she meant to me and how much I appreciated her friendship and advice.Its a reminder to all of us of how very fragile life is. And never to take it for granted. My heart is still broken, but I believe that time will heal all. Gesa spoke so highly of you at work. She always said that you took care of Aylin like you do your own children and thats why she never worried about her. I know you have a great loss in your life and I thank you for your beautiful memories that you shared. God bless you and your family.

EDMAE BRYSON

The Dash Movie

no_author@no_author.com — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 17:12:08 EST

Hello folks,
I know that it has been a very trying time for all involved. I have somethings to say from my prospective as a Funeral Professional in what I saw in a loving service to what I found out by listening to all a very Loving person. I will post more in a day or so. But for now, I will leave you all with this video. It is called the Dash. I find it very moving and gives you alot to think about. Please go to:www.thedashmovie.com and also turn up the volume of your speakers. Until later.
Oliver

Oliver S.Ewing

We will miss Gesa

no_author@no_author.com — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 14:29:24 EST

Two years ago Gesa diagnosed my daughter with type 2 diabetes. I am a nurse who works at the hospital where Gesa practiced. I was really upset that I hadn't caught my daughters illness myself. Gesa was very nice to me and took me a side and talked a long time with me, telling me not to blame myself. Dr Lamers was always ready to talk, it didn't matter if it was work related or not, she would take the time. We talked a lot about diet, diabetes and daughters. Gesa was very proud of her daughter, Aylin, your mommy loved you very much! It is very hard to believe that Gesa won't be getting off the elevator and telling us some cute thing that Aylin did. We will miss Dr Lamers very much. Our prayers go out to Tulug, Aylin and of coarse Gesa's family. Our lives were touched by your Gesa, thank you for sharing her with us.
Tiffany P. Nampa Idaho

Dr. Geas Lamers leaves void that will not be filled

no_author@no_author.com — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 02:17:32 EST

It was with both absolute shock and great sorrow that we read of the death of Ccaldwell doctor Gesa Lamers thispast week in the IPT.My wife and I had been patients of Dr Geas Lamers for the past several years and had come to look at her as not only a health practitioner,but also as a confidant,adviser mentor and,especially,a friend.The words that came to our mindsupon learning of the world's most special people. Gesa's true care for her patients came not only in the medical care and treatment she gaveto us.She developed a close,caring bond to all she saw and treated. Her personality spoke through her caring actions and, as a patient, you knewas fromthe knowledge of life and health care. Although young enough to be our daughter, she was a mentorto both of us,and her straight-foward advice was delivered with hearthfelt and genuine sincerity. She was a very proud mother and wife, and she bragged on her baby girl and loving husband at every given opportunity.Gesa was a definite asset to our community, to the St.Alphonsus group,to her Patients and the world. She is geatly missed, and there is a void in our hearts and our lives that will never be filled. Les and Karla Matlock Caldwell

Our favorite doctor

no_author@no_author.com — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 19:55:13 EST

Both my wife and I were patients of Gesa's. She was one in a million. We had never found a doctor who was so carring and so wonderful. It almost made having to go the doctor fun.
We would often visit about our families before she got down to our medical problems. You coud just feel the pride and love she had for her daughter. My wife has been her patient since giving a kidney to her nurse several years ago. I credit her care with the fact that i am still alive after a serious accident last fall. She would often tell me not to complain because i should have died at least twice. She made such a difference in our lives. Our prayers are with all of you.
Jim and Marg Freeman, Caldwell,Idaho.

What a great doc. she was. I have been her patient for 7 years and she always had time to listen and gave great advice. She really worried about my dry skin and gave many helpful lotion suggestions - I sure you know how much she loved baby oil. We, here in Caldwell, will miss her so much. My husband is equally devasted. We all hope that there will be a memorial service in Idaho that we may attend and share memories. Our thoughts and prayers are will you all.

SCFM Residency Program

no_author@no_author.com — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 19:06:16 EST

We at the residency program in Pueblo, Colorado were devestated to learn of Dr. Lamers passing. Gesa was a wonderful resident physician. I remember Gesa during her residency fondly. I have one special moment that I will always remember. Gesa was copying a medical article from a text book and wanted to make sure that even the words in the creases could be read. I mentioned if she would press down on the spine of the book this would help. Gesa not knowing her own strength pressed down alright and broke the glass on the copier. Needless to say - after that incident Gesa was no longer allowed to use the copier without direct supervision. I am so glad that I was able to meet and work with Dr. Lamers for 3 years during her training. My heart goes out to all family and friends.

Nancy/Program Coordinator
SCFM/Pueblo, CO

Final Arranements.

yml.nospamplease@nospam.yml.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 19:40:07 EST

Please see the homepage for final arrangements.

Due to scheduling conflicts, family and friends flying in from out of town and out of the country, we are splitting the event over two days. Sunday at the funeral home will be the main Service. It will be at 3PM. So even if you, like me, don't like viewings, you want to come to the service to pay your respects. The burial on Monday will be a much smaller event and there will be no service before.

Please let everyone know.

Arrangements (see homepage for more details):

Sunday April 6th @ Kalas Funeral home @ 2PM for a 1 hour viewing.

The "Main Service" will be held at 3PM and will last 1 hour.

There will be a reception at Fort Lamers starting at 4:30PM.

Burial will be Monday April 7th at Saint Mary's Church of Piscataway at 1PM. We will meet in the cemetery. There will be no service. Short and sweet.

Family and close friends are welcome to join us for a pot luck gathering at Fort Lamers

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Gesa will be Forever missed....

no_author@no_author.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 19:16:44 EST

Gesa was apart of our family. Tulug, Aylin and Gesa were our neighbors. I had the great honor of watching Aylin for a little over 2 years. When I heard of Gesa's death, I immidiately thought about this one evening, Gesa was pregnant and so ready to have Aylin... we had been talking outside and we all decided it was getting late and needed to go inside and end our conversation. One of my favorite memories of Tulug and Gesa, was looking at them on their driveway. Gesa was very pregnant and Tulug was hugging her from behind, rubbing her belly. Both just so excited to have this baby. This memory has been a sweet comfort to me. They were both so very happy and excited.

  I was so impressed with Gesa while she was pregnant. She was very concerned with everything she did and what she put into her mouth. She was a great mother before Aylin was even born. All her concerns were about that baby and how healthy she would be.

  Gesa looked forward to me bringing Aylin to her office to nurse her. She would even keep her for some meetings, so she could pass her around and show her off. I remember hearing her proudly tell me how everyone loved her baby. She was so proud of her motherhood.

  Gesa would come home from work and sit for a couple of hours and we would talk about every little detail that she might of missed through out the day and she enjoyed hearing every thing I had to tell her. From Aylins facial expressions as she tried new food... to her first words. Gesa would share with me every morning, what Aylin did that night while I was not with her. We shared a common bond... we both loved Aylin. I was so blessed to have Gesa trust me to love her daughter and to watch her.

  I loved that Gesa wasn't too proud to ask me motherly advice. I have five children of my own. She told me, even though I am a doctor, and am book smart, you know the in's and out's from expierence and that is knowledge I will come to know. As she did so well.

   Gesa taught Aylin German as soon as she was born. We got games for the computer and even dvd's that were all in German. It was so neat, because I learned along with Aylin. Not as well as Aylin did, but I came to understand a great deal, while listening to Gesa talk to her daughter.

  Gesa talked fondly of how she loved delivering babies. Especially aftr Aylin had grown some and wasn't that little baby anymore. Gesa would tell me that holding a new born baby meant even more to her after she had one herself. I know she loved her work. I know she knew how important her job was, but she did it passionately. She really loved bringing new babies into the world.

  Gesa was a very down to earth person. She was a doctor, her and her husband made a very good income, but they were not people of the world. They did not try to keep up with the "JONES", as she would call it. They had nice things, but not so expensive that it caused her any great debt. She was always wise with her money, and I appreciated all our conversations and advice on financial issues I had.

  Gesa also was an awesome cook! I loved to go into her house, it always smelled yummy to me. Whenever we (I have 4 daughters) wanted to learn how to cook something or make jam, Gesa was eager to do it with us or show us. She knew her spices well and which ones went with what. She could tell you where to get them in bulk cheaply too.

   Gesa loved her Faust, her pet hound. He did die not too long ago, so it puts a smile on my face to think she is with him and her Father. Her dog became unable to walk, and I do not know anyone who would do what she did with that dog. She was amazing. She put his hind legs in a bag like thing and would walk him around the yard. She worked with him, and she made a miracle happen through her constant hard work and love. That dog walked again. If it were anyone else, they might of put the animal to sleep or made some mini wheel chair and not even tried what she did. But Gesa loved her dog. She loved animals. She had a special place in her heart for them. That memory sticks out in my mind and I will never forget her will to cure that dog and make him whole.

    Gesa had so much going for her. A great career... a wonderful family. She was involved in the community and loved animals. She seemed to have it all together. She really enjoyed life and lived it well. She was a very good person, wife, mother and friend to me.
I will miss her so much. I will be there for Tulug and Aylin when they get home. She will be forever missed in our family and in my heart!

Re: Gesa will be Forever missed....

yml.nospamplease@nospam.yml.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 13:55:36 EST

Thank you so much for your kind words and memories. Gesa spoke of you often.

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saving my grandchild

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 10:57:21 EST

Six years ago my daughter gave birth to my grand daughter.
Gesa brought Madison into the world.It was a complicated delivery and we almost lost Madison,who at 9lbs 10oz was 'stuck'.After a long labor there was a sense of panic,the room was full of emergency medical people and after an"I'm so sorry to have to do this sweetie!", she reached up and broke my granddaughters' collar bone and the baby was born.With the cord wrapped around her neck,Madison was not breathing and was the most horrid
color blue.The medical team jumped in and within minutes the baby was breathing.Every time we took her to see Gesa,Gesa would apologize for the pain she caused the baby and called her,'her beautiful special girl'.She always spoke of some day taking time to have a child of her own but until then she would gladly take Madison if I would let her, we always laughted about the comment. I was so happy when she did have her own daughter,I knew she would be the most awesome mother ever and she was.I am so sad to know that after all the years of waiting she was only able to spend three short years with her daughter althought I have no doubt in my mind they were the best three years ever.My prayers go to her husband and that precious little girl and to all her family members. My father has always told me growing up that it doesn't matter how unattractive one is on the outside it's the beauty on the inside that makes the person beautiful. In that case,Gesa hit the jackpot on beauty because she not only was beautiful on the inside she was very beautiful on the outside. She'll be sorely missed...Lizz Miller Caldwell,Idaho.

lizz miller

Never to be forgotten

no_author@no_author.com — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:41:14 EST

Gesa was not only my doctor for the last seven years. She was my friend. Our paths crossed many times at the hospital where I worked. At times when things got so stressful at work, she would tell me that at the end its all good. Because we're making a difference in someones life and thats all that really matters. My heart was broken to hear of the news of Gesa's passing. She was with us for but a short time, but left a legacy behind her. She truely made a difference in the lives of so many people and I for one know that she will be missed. She was loved by many people. Each of us have our own special memories of Gesa.For me, she was never too busy to listen to a friend.No matter how silly my problem was. We would laugh till we cried. We talked about dieting till we were sick of the word. Then she said, "if I could put you all in a birdcage, and feed you with a chopstick, then we'd never have to say the "D" word again. The thought of us in a birdcage with Gesa feeding us with a chopstick always bought chuckles to us and we often giggled amongst ourselves. So I say farewell to an awesome lady. As we say in Hawaii, "Aloha Oe", Farewell my friend until we meet again.

EDMAE BRYSON

Thanks

no_author@no_author.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 21:36:30 EST

I am, no was one of Dr. Lamers patients for most of the time she was in Idaho. I remember very clearly in the hospital about 4 years ago at 500 pounds and in congestive heart failure with 3-4 doctors telling me my only choice was surgery she told me I have another option she wrote out a diet on the back of a handy piece of paper that I now call the Lamers diet. I am now down 300 pounds and fit. I attribute this to her and her advise through the years. She always took the time to all of my questions. On my recommendation my wife and her mother also became her patients and also held her in high esteem.... She was a fine doctor and person, I will miss her, and will keep a good thought for her family in this time of loss.............Tom from Idaho

gone too soon

skybluz3.nospamplease@nospam.gmail.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 20:39:57 EST

I met Gesa for the first time at this year's Easter Fire. Every once in a while you meet a person that you know is extraordinary. Gesa was one of those people. I'll forever treasure the time we spent together that evening. My heart aches for her daughter Aylin who has lost such an amazing mother, and for her family and friends who love her so deeply. She's gone too soon, but she will forever live in our hearts.

Re: Arrangements

no_author@no_author.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 19:00:37 EST

Thank you for making this webpage and dedicating a place for Gesa and those who will miss her to remember her and honor her.

Gesa

no_author@no_author.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 11:45:53 EST

It is sad to hear that my cousin has passed. This is a time that the family should come together and realize how fragile our life is. When I read the posting from others, I can see that Gesa had a lasting impact on those around her. She will be deeply missed by her freinds, colleagues and family.

Mark M Lamers

Arrangements

yml.nospamplease@nospam.yml.com — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 11:36:22 EST

See the homepage http://www.yml.com for details on arrangements.

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Dinosaur

billg.nospamplease@nospam.radix.net — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:04:14 EST

Saturday night (22 Mar 08) Gesa said the she was nine years out of medical school and a bit of a dinosaur. She sets bones and delivers babies. She does what is needed for the patient. New doctors arrive out of medical school and they want to specialize. Her practice has to speen (I think she said six months) time generalizing new doctors so that they are useful in rural Idaho.
IMHO we need more doctors like the Gesa Dinosaur. Her death is a great loss.
Bill Grenoble

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Purpose.

yml.nospamplease@nospam.yml.com — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 23:12:03 EST

The purpose of this forum, for those that would like to participate, is the share memories, anecdotes and thoughts about my sister for those that can not be here at the memorial service.

Also, if you have any good photos of Gesa, please feel free to share them in the Photos of Gesa section.